I’m going to talk about what pisses me off living with Asperger’s, maybe you can relate.
Living with Asperger’s
I’m also going to give you six tips on how to overcome all this anger and frustration with the world, with yourself, with other people, with noises, whatever it may be. So, stay till the very end, I’m going to have six really good techniques and tips.
Number 5 – Being Misunderstood
So number five, the thing that pisses me off is being misunderstood. The easiest thing that people do when they can’t categorize me or fit me in a box is they call me weird.
Now this was a really bad word in my 20s when I was trying to date girls, you know, if girls didn’t understand me, they called me weird. It was just the go to definition, the go to term.
A lot of people call people weird that they don’t understand so it’s not against you. It’s them basically tripping out and not being able to label you, so don’t take it personally just let it roll off your back.
I know it’s hard. If you have Asperger’s, it’s very easy to take everything super, literally. Now, that’s, that’s another thing I’m going to talk about here in a second.
Number Four – Random Noises
Number four, random noises, loud noises or things out of place. So if I look around and something is out of place I have to fix it. I’m a neat freak, I have to organize.
And noises, you know, if I’m sitting in a rocking chair and it’s squeaking, it’s gonna drive me nuts when other people don’t even notice it.
When I’m eating with other people and their fork hits the plate, that’s annoying. Okay, or even chewing, the sound of chewing or the sound of drinking just drives me through the roof. I just can’t handle it, it sounds like we’re a bunch of animals just tearing apart our feast, and it’s just annoying. I can’t stand it. So yeah, it’s bad.
Number Three – Being Lied To
Number three is being lied to. So when I was a kid I was very gullible and back to that taking everything literally, so my friends knew that I took everything literally, and they would always try to tease me and psych me out, and tell me untruthful things.
One time, I had a friend. He knew that I really liked drum sets and that I really loved sonar which is a brand of drum set, and he said that he found a sonar drum and he was gonna give it to me.
I was so excited, then eventually he was just like Oh I was just kidding. And it seemed like my whole childhood was based on these bullies, these people I call friends who were actually bullies because that’s who I attracted into my life with my low self esteem, they were constantly teasing me and making me believe things that weren’t true.
I mean, I believed in Santa Claus, until I was 12 years old. I was just very sheltered, my parents sheltered me, and I was easily gullible. The other thing that I’m being lied to, what really upsets me in my adult life working from home, working online, is that I hate, I hate fake profiles online.
I hate fake people, they say they’re one person and then they’re the other, that’s probably the worst thing that, I get so irate when I’m lied to online.
There was one time I lost $2,000. I invested in this high yield investment product scheme, and I put $2,000 into my account and somehow I clicked this button that made it so that funds could be easily transferred out of my account or into my account.
Then one day, I woke up and all of that money was gone, and this is back way before Bitcoin, but I did deal with digital currency back then.
I think Liberty reserve was the digital currency I used. There’s lots of them today they’re actually very well known with internet marketers, but a lot of people are switching to crypto.
But this was used before crypto. It was called digital currency and liberty reserve ripped me off $2,000 and apparently that CEO went to prison. So a lot of people got ripped off.
The other thing that pisses me off is when I want to hire a writer on those writers’ websites, and I look at their profiles and they look like they’re Caucasians from Seattle. Then, after talking to them for a little while, I can tell that they’re from, like Nigeria, you know, or India.
A lot of people get ripped off, you know, by trying to buy online writers or SEO services or website designers or Fiverr Gigs and people get ripped off all the time by all these fake profiles, and I hate being deceived, especially when there’s money involved.
If you’re gonna lie to me about where you live and who you are, I don’t want to work with you, you know, that’s not professional. How is that a business? You’re not going to go far ripping people off, you will get shut down.
Number Two – Loud Extroverts
Number two, Loud extroverts, aka, cheerleaders, soccer moms, and guys that think they’re just really all that, really cool, you know, they talk more than they listen, they can’t listen. They think they know it all.
You know, these soccer moms that have a cushy life, and their husband makes all the money and these soccer moms are just online on these webinars just talking all day long about nothing, and I just can’t handle it.
I can’t handle gossip. I can’t have BS. I can’t handle empty words or, you know, people that are over cocky and think they know it all.
And yes, a lot of this I have to do my own work, because I have been cocky before, I have been arrogant.
I have been over spoken before, so a lot of these things that I’m irritated about, I have to do my own work and I do these things just as well.
I have lied to people online before. I did create alter egos online that wasn’t my real name. I used pen names before.
So a lot of these things I can point the finger back at myself so don’t get me wrong. I’m just talking about what pisses me off and then we’ll talk about the techniques to overcome these things. So that being said:
Number One – Perfectionism
Number one, is being a perfectionist. I hate being a perfectionist, and I hate other perfectionists, and people with Asperger’s are pretty much perfectionist, you know, when they do something and they put everything into it, they laser focus on what they’re interested in, and that can be a good thing or it can be a bad thing.
When you put all of your energy and focus into something that can be great, you can create amazing things online, you can create beautiful artwork, you know, literature, there’s some really incredible artists that have Asperger’s out there.
But on the other hand, perfectionism gets in the way, it can actually stifle your creativity. There’s a lot of people that won’t even start things because they’re perfectionist, and they won’t start something unless they know it all, or they’ve studied it, or they’ve practiced 100 times.
For example, if you want to do a video and you’re a perfectionist, you probably might say well I have to figure out how to use the camera. I have to learn the technique of doing videos, I have to study the proper editing and how long of a video I should do and, or I don’t know the topic well enough so I’m gonna study that before I even start.
If you’re a content creator, you have to just go for it. You will get better the more you do it. I’ve deleted hundreds of videos already, not on this channel but other channels. So it’s, it’s really trial by error and perfectionism just gets in the way of life, you know, and no one’s perfect.
I hated my parents at one time, I would always yell at my girlfriends, I would criticize my friends and I was always looking around at trying to make other people better, when really I have to point the finger back at myself and realize I’m not perfect, and I have a lot of issues with perfectionism, so it’s something I have to work on.
So here’s the six tips on overcoming all of these things that piss you off. The first one is Shadow Work. This is where you actually look at your own fault of character and defects of character and realize that you have done all of these things that you criticize others for you have just pushed it down into your shadow.
Look it up Carl Yung talks a lot about the shadow. It’s basically stuff that we don’t like about ourselves, and we project it onto others. But really if it irritates you, there’s probably something in your life that reminds you of you, and you don’t like it. So look into shadow work. Teal Swan is huge on Shadow Work, look her up on YouTube.
Forgiveness, that’s a big one. Now I need to forgive myself for being a drunk for 16 years, for hurting a lot of people, for dropping out of high school, for dropping out of college, for hurting my parents, for hurting everyone including myself.
Once you start forgiving yourself, you won’t really criticize others as much. It’s really an amazing thing to do. So look into forgiveness.
Another one is mindfulness and meditation. So when you become more aware of your surroundings and yourself and just the whole heartbeat of this life and this universe, you will realize that criticizing and being irritated and frustrated, are such small things in the universe.
So you really have to let go of that stuff because life is too short to be pissed off and stressed out and it really can destroy your life.
Diet is another one. You can be hitting the caffeine or alcohol too much and those things are going to just make you irritated, no matter how good your life is going.
If you’re jacked up on caffeine or you’re getting drunk every night, you are not going to like your life. I know that from experience I hated myself. I hated my life and I drank alcohol 24/7 because I didn’t want to feel stress.
So, diet is definitely important, if you’re eating a lot of fast food or a lot of sugar, you’re going to spike your blood sugar and then you’re going to crash and you’re going to be so irritated and stressed out, and that will just lead to so many other problems.
Last but not least is to check out online therapy, if you feel like you’re just having unmanageable stress and feelings of depression and anxiety, you have to look into online therapy.
I’ll leave a link to all of my resources under this video, but you definitely want to do that because, like I said, you know life is too short to be stressed out, to be paranoid to be anxious, to be depressed, get help today.
I really enjoy online therapy. All the therapy I’ve had has helped me and made me really look at things that I haven’t looked at before, so it’s definitely a good thing to get someone who can see your faults of character, because we just can’t see ourselves sometimes. So thanks for watching/reading guys hit that subscribe button, and we’ll talk to you soon.
Erik C Johnson